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COERCIVE CONTROL DOESN'T END AFTER THE ESCAPE.


IT INTENSIFIES POST SEPARATION - AND ALL TOO OFTEN OUR CHILDREN ARE WEAPONIZED.

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A Clinician & Coach specializing in the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims of Coercive Control.

I have been a social justice advocate since the age of 19 educating on the prevention of domestic abuse and sexual assault, over two decades as a college professor in social work, and a clinician, yet I didn’t see the coercive control in my own relationship. Even the most astute of us may miss the insidious nuanced nature of coercive control. Physical violence is not the defining characteristic. And coercive controllers [narcissistic abusers] choose individuals who they can impose their regime upon – Perfect Prey. 

It is never a victim’s fault.

I want to help you to navigate this oppressive situation AND guide you as you parent your children, harmed by the coercive controller.
I am a trauma-trained clinician who specializes in the experiences of adult and child victims of coercive control and have researched the significant indoctrination of our children by the harmful individual – it’s like a cult. It is an unacknowledged child abuse.

Since DAY ONE the coercive controller has been attempting to Maliciously Fracture the Attachment that your child has to you. I want to support Reigniting their Attachment to you – their protective parent. Our children can heal – it is a marathon not a sprint – we MUST counteract the intentional harm by the coercive controller.

Beyond supporting protective parents, education is my #1 priority. Education will prevent this generational trauma. 

Above all, I am a SURVIVOR & A PROTECTIVE PARENT

Protective Parenting Program

Are you a protective parent navigating the challenges of raising a child who has been or is being abused by a parent who is a coercive controller?

Dr. C has proven strategies that have supported many protective parents as they navigate parenting children who have been or are being coercively controlled.

The Protective Parenting Program will support you in managing your own traumatic reactions, enabling you to respond to your child’s behaviors with greater clarity and empathy. By doing so, you may create a safer and more secure environment for your child, nurturing their well-being and emotional growth.

You are your child’s saving grace. Together, we can re-establish the deep bond you have always shared with them, fostering a renewed sense of attachment and resilience.

*This course may be used as a “parenting course” in court proceedings. See the below certification badge.

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Individual & Group Coaching

Dr. Cocchiola, a highly skilled trauma-trained clinician and coercive control educator, lends her expertise to empower and assist protective parents in nurturing children who have experienced or are currently facing coercive control. As a dedicated researcher, she not only offers professional guidance but also brings a unique perspective as a survivor and protective parent herself.

Furthermore, Dr. Cocchiola’s associates, who have been meticulously trained, share her commitment to supporting protective parents. Just like Dr. Cocchiola, they are survivors and protective parents, fostering a compassionate and understanding environment for families in need. for adult and child victims and survivors of coercive control.

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Dr. Cocchiola & her associates ARE coercive control-trained AND trauma-trained AND are survivors AND protective mothers.

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MASTERCLASS & Trainings

Attorneys & Court Professionals
(2.5-hour Masterclass)

We unpack coercive control, HOW it is inflicted, WHO inflicts it [coercive controllers, aka abusers], the impact on adult and child victims, including the psychological harm that occurs as a Protresult of coercive control, and finally, the institutional betrayal that happens all too often.

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Protective Parents & Allies (1.5-hour Webinar)

Whether you are a protective parent or have a loved one in that role, this session offers a profound understanding of the experiences faced by victims and survivors. By delving into the intricate dynamics of coercive control, attendees will gain valuable insights into the manipulative tactics employed and the resulting emotional toll.

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Clinician, Attorney, Divorce Coach Certification Training

Are you a clinician who would like to be coercive control informed AND earn 14 CE’s with a Certification?
Then this training is for you! If you would like to help protective parents in the family court system then after completion, apply for Lisa Fontes, Ph.D., Expert Witness Training! Join me THUR Jan 16th & FRI Jan 17th from 10am to 6:00 pm EDT

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Where Is Your Line? Love is NOT Control

Discover where your boundaries lie with our eye-opening webinar: ‘Where Is Your Line?’ This educational session is specially crafted for adolescents and individuals above that age bracket, offering crucial insights into recognizing coercive control and unhealthy dynamics within relationships. We encourage adolescents to participate alongside their protective parents, fostering open discussions and empowering families with the knowledge to identify and address coercive control effectively.
*scroll down for a FREE 20-minute primer on Where Is Your Line? Love Is Not Control

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Coach & Ally
Self-Study Training

Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Coach & Ally Certification Training is comprehensive SELF-STUDY educational training to support Coaches and anyone who identifies as an Ally. This training equips participants with essential skills to become Coercive Control Trauma-Informed interventionists. By the end of this empowering certification, you’ll possess the knowledge and tools needed to make a real difference, providing support and understanding to those affected by coercive control.

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Interview Questions for Hiring Prospective Therapists

Navigate the process of finding the right therapist or court professional with Dr. Cocchiola’s invaluable resource. This guide offers tailored interview questions, meticulously crafted for parents seeking expert help for children impacted by coercive control. Gain confidence in your selection process as you delve into these specific, insightful questions, ensuring you find the right support system.

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Testimonials

The Protective Parenting Program is exactly what I've been looking for in the past 4 years to support my child during a divorce from a narcissist. Hearing from lawyers, therapists, and counselors that there is nothing I could do for my child was just not what I wanted. Finding Dr. Cocchiola changed my life! The program taught me the exact tools how to help my child with ongoing trauma and to strengthen our bond. I feel prepared for all stages of childhood and, most importantly, I feel less alone. In the group setting I realized that we are all in this together, and we are not alone on this journey of protecting our children from the abusive parent.
M.K.
M.K.California
Dr Cocchiola is highly knowledgeable in the area of coercive control and how it impacts children as well as adults and demonstrates high levels of empathy and compassion for all her students/participants. It was a joy to spend several hours with her online - and I was sad for the time to come to an end!
A.H.
A.H.United Kingdom
The family courts are failing mothers and children. Dr. Cocchiola gives you tools to work together or separate from the courts to protect your children. So often, a mother's role gets severely undermined during divorce by our exes, attorneys, therapist, and judges. Dr. Cocchiola's strategies help elevate your voice, placing you in a better position legally and with the most important ones in our life, our children. The class taught me that as I empower myself, I empower my kids and by finding my voice, I am helping my kids find theirs.
A.N.
A.N.California
When I found Dr C things changed. I finally found someone who could help me and help me understand how to help my children. Her understanding of these behaviors, her tools to help our children, plus access to people going through this too…..I truly can’t put a price tag on this program. I no longer feel alone, crazy, and helpless. If you are associated with a coercive controller, I cannot recommend this program enough.
M.C.
M.C.United States
I want you to know that it’s because of you that my child has such a safe space with me, as our own abuser escalates and it is activating at times. I have also been able to take your methodology and share it with friends who are experiencing it too. Thank you for changing lives in this unique and monumental way.
M.C.
M.C.United States
Dr Cocchiola's work on trauma-informed parenting has been a game changer for me. Many of the decisions & changes I had been making were intuitively rooted in my love for my sons but it wasn't until her program that I came to clearly see the many impacts of my problematic home situation on my two very different boys. Most importantly, Dr Cocchiola's ability to understand the complex nuances within these controlling relationships means she can provide clear and effective guidance. I am now super confident that my boys will grow into young men able to identify, expect and experience healthy relationships : )
M.K.
M.K.California
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