For Victims – Coercive Control Consulting Institute https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com Wed, 05 Feb 2025 19:24:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/favicon-anOrganizedApproach-2024-06-withoutBird-150x150.png For Victims – Coercive Control Consulting Institute https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com 32 32 The Loss and the Grief are Unacknowledged and Insurmountable https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/the-loss-and-the-grief-are-unacknowledged-and-insurmountable/ Tue, 28 Jan 2025 17:19:30 +0000 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/?p=654 Read more

]]> Coercive control doesn’t just take away a sense of safety or stability; it robs children and protective parents of so much more. There are many losses and these losses permeate so many aspects of our lives. We need to understand that grief is beyond mourning the loss of a loved one; it’s about grappling with all the intangible losses too. And when it comes to coercive control…

Source

]]> Understanding the Trauma Reactions Children May Have While Living in a Home or Sharing Custodial Time with a Coercive Controller: Part 2 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/understanding-the-trauma-reactions-children-may-have-while-living-in-a-home-or-sharing-custodial-time-with-a-coercive-controller-part-2/ Sun, 26 Jan 2025 17:13:48 +0000 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/?p=647 Read more

]]> We have explored the concepts of Fight and Fawn, discussing how children often mimic these behaviors as coping mechanisms in abusive environments. I want to focus on two additional trauma reactions in this blog: Flight & Freeze. Escaping the Threat Flight is not just about physical escape; it’s a psychological response to perceived danger. Children who exhibit flight responses may…

Source

]]> Understanding the Trauma Reactions Children May Have While Living in a Home or Sharing Custodial Time with a Coercive Controller: Part 1 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/understanding-the-trauma-reactions-children-may-have-while-living-in-a-home-or-sharing-custodial-time-with-a-coercive-controller-part-1/ Sat, 25 Jan 2025 06:30:57 +0000 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/?p=643 Read more

]]> Children who have been exposed to coercive control carry an immense amount of shame. Dr. Stark refers to them as secondary victims, acknowledging that their abuse is secondary to the primary focus of the abuser – the protective parents. It is disheartening to witness our children treating us poorly, and displaying disrespect and entitlement. However, it is essential to understand that their…

Source

]]> Compliance is Often an Act of Survival – In the Voice of the Abuser https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/compliance-is-often-an-act-of-survival-in-the-voice-of-the-abuser/ Mon, 20 Jan 2025 16:51:01 +0000 https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/?p=637 Read more

]]> Dear child, I know that you thought you knew me so well, perhaps I was the fun parent and maybe even the one that did not make you do as many chores. Or maybe I was the bear in the home, or both intermittently. It could have been that my behaviors were mostly directed to your protective parent, but you saw it, you knew what was going on, you felt it, and this led you to feeling confused…

Source

]]>