Welcome, Protective Parents.
If you’re here, it means you’re seeking help to navigate the oppressive reality of coercive control. You may have lived through the torment of an abusive relationship and are now fighting to protect your child. You might also be grappling with institutional betrayal—feeling let down by the very systems designed to safeguard you and your family.
We understand how overwhelming this can be, and we’re here to help.
As Coercive Control and Trauma-Trained Clinicians, Coaches, Protective Parents, and Survivors—we offer the expertise, empathy, and shared experience to support you on this journey.
Together, let's maximize your time with your child and minimize their exposure to the coercive controller. And most importantly, let's fortify and/or reignite and strengthen your child’s attachment to you, even in the face of challenging circumstances.
These wounds can be healed. I'm here to support you every step of the way.
Protective Parenting Program
Our Signature Program for Parents
The Protective Parenting Program is offered both as a LIVE Coaching Training Course with Dr. C or as a Self-Study Training Course.
Have Questions? Schedule a Free Consult.
Other Courses & Resources
Webinar for Protective Parents & Allies
Whether you are a protective parent or have a loved one in that role, this webinar offers a profound understanding of the experiences faced by victims and survivors. By delving into the intricate dynamics of coercive control, attendees will gain valuable insights into the manipulative tactics employed and the resulting emotional toll.
Webinar for Adolescents & Protective Parents
Discover where your boundaries lie with our eye-opening webinar: ‘Where Is Your Line?’ This educational session is specially crafted for adolescents/young adults and their protective parents, offering crucial insights into recognizing coercive control and unhealthy dynamics within relationships.
Free Visual Tool
This resource illuminates the trauma experienced by children who are victims of a coercive controller. The chart provides valuable insights into their psychological struggles, helping protective parents understand the journey from pre-trauma vulnerability to the challenges faced while under coercive control. By mapping this journey, parents can recognize their crucial role in guiding their children toward freedom, reignited attachment, resilience, and post-traumatic growth.
Free Guide
Dr. Cocchiola's guide provides specific interview questions for parents seeking therapists or court professionals to help children affected by coercive control. While not exhaustive, it offers focused inquiries, enabling parents to find compassionate and qualified professionals for their children's healing journey.
Free Guide
These statements may prove useful if you are engaging with a clinician, school professional, physician, or other providers.
We need a SEA of ALLIES to counteract those who do not understand the coercive control of our children. The Clinicians in our directory have completed Dr. C’s Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Clinician Certification Training.
Dr C's Thoughts
Recommended Reading
"Fair-Fighting Rules"
on Therapist Aid
"Using Love Language to Connect with Our Children"
on Parents.com
"Reunification Therapy for Children With a Domestic Abuser?"
on Psychology Today
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