Coercive controllers are strategic. Protective parents must be too. The key is to create consistent, authentic connection without pressure or expectation. This is where the CIA framework comes in: Creativity, Intentionality, and Attunement. Creativity: Finding New Ways to Connect When a child is being manipulated, direct conversations about the coercive controller often backfire. Instead, focus …
Why Children Align with the Abuser (and Why It’s Not Their Fault) It’s one of the hardest things a protective parent can experience. Watching their child align with the person who has caused so much harm. It feels like betrayal. But in reality, it’s survival. Children do not have the cognitive or emotional capacity to …
Your ex isn’t just being difficult… they are using your child to control you. This isn’t co-parenting. This is abuse. While they play the calm, collected parent in court, you’re left fighting for your child’s well-being, painted as the unstable one. Sound familiar? Introduction Coercive control is the underpinning of all abuse. It can be …
