Coercive controllers are strategic. Protective parents must be too. The key is to create consistent, authentic connection without pressure or expectation. This is where the CIA framework comes in: Creativity, Intentionality, and Attunement. Creativity: Finding New Ways to Connect When a child is being manipulated, direct conversations about the coercive controller often backfire. Instead, focus …
Coercive controllers work relentlessly to fracture a child’s attachment with the protective parent. Your job is to be just as intentional about preserving it. This means being the steady, safe presence they can return to when they are ready. Clarity Without Confrontation Children in these situations are often confused. They hear one reality at the …
Your ex isn’t just being difficult… they are using your child to control you. This isn’t co-parenting. This is abuse. While they play the calm, collected parent in court, you’re left fighting for your child’s well-being, painted as the unstable one. Sound familiar? Introduction Coercive control is the underpinning of all abuse. It can be …
